Hi!!! Have you seen Joy the movie? If you have not and you fit into the description above, you have to. How did I find this movie because I had never heard of it before. Well, my usual movie streaming site - dayt.se .It was just a lazy Saturday morning and I was searching for something to feed my eyes on when I stumbled on the thumbnail and I was like JOY?? What kind of title is that?? This must be a musical, after reading the summary, I decide to give it a try. I wonder if I am the only one who can over analyse things even movies, always trying to find meanings to things and pick out lessons from every event, that's me! So straight to the movie, the lead character was played by Jennifer Lawrence - one of the young badass actresses of our time whom I love, she is really good and the film is based on a real life story. It is all about a divorced mother of 2 who invented a self-wringing mop and made a business out of it but not without her own struggles. It spoke to me from the beginning to the end. So straight to the lessons

  1. YOU WILL BE TURNED DOWN MANY TIMES: All through history, people who have made it and turned out great faced several rejections, people did not believe in their dreams, their talents, their ideas, their abilities. Read the biographies of men and women who are celebrated today Oprah, Beyonce(whom I love), J.k. Rowling, Elvis Presley, Thomas Edison and the list goes on. Joy was rejected too, no one was interested in a special mop at a surprisingly higher price when the ones they had were doing just fine. So brace yourself for rejection because it is inevitable to attain true success and become who you want to be. You will be rejected, fired, criticised, spat on and looked down on but never give in and never give up.                                                                         
  2. YOU DON'T HAVE TO TAKE SHIT FROM ANYONE & A CLOSED MOUTH IS A CLOSED DESTINY: From the experiences I have had so far, I know that people are going to talk shit about you, say shit to you, try to make you feel less than you are. You might find yourself in bad situations and if you are like me, you try to keep cool and tolerate everything, but truth is you are a human being who has a voice and opinion. Say how you feel about stuff, voice out what you want and whatever you are not comfortable with, confront who you have to. You will have to step on some toes, you can't please everybody and displease yourself. You deserve to be happy too. You should be in control of what goes on in your business. Don't be afraid to make your points clear and put people in their place. If you keep your mouth shut, you just keep dying inside.
  3. NETWORK! NETWORK!! NETWORK!!!  You might be talented and have an amazing idea but honey you can never do it all on your own, you need help and it is okay to need help. My mum always tells us "no man is an island". Don't be afraid to go out there and meet people and share what you do with them, they just might know someone who knows someone who knows someone that can help you immensely, Remember that every conversation is an opportunity.
  4. SHE GAVE UP EVERYTHING FOR HER DREAM: The kind of commitment she had to see her vision till the end was scary, I personally have an issue with going through with things that seem to not be going as I planned or expected. She gave up her house, everything she had to invest in her dream which is something we should all emulate. Remember no one will believe in your dream except you do!
  5. ALWAYS BE YOURSELF : Who you are is your brand and we are created to be unique. In every situation, please be yourself. Joy was about to go on live TV to promote her invention. The TV corporation had already styled and dolled her up but she asked to change one thing and she went back to her original look. It spoke to me because there have been times where I felt I had to leave some of my "danie-ness" behind to fit into a crowd or some people's expectations. Always be yourself. Be unique. Do you boo! 
  6. BE CAREFUL ABOUT WHAT YOU PUT YOUR SIGNATURE ON: My mum always tells us this. She will be like "have you read it? Make sure to read that paper before you sign o!" Know the conditions of a contract or agreement before you sign so you don't find your self in a tight corner.
  7. NEW KIND OF CONFIDENCE: there are days when you don't feel so great about yourself! You feel this life isn't just cut out for you. I have come to discover that changing our look a bit can give a new kind of confidence. For Joy, it was a new hairstyle, a new look and some red lipstick. Red lipstick can be so empowering. if you are going through some emotional blues maybe a bad breakup or heartbreak, you should consider changing your look a bit and see how you feel. 
  8. Joy's ex-husband was a major help and support system for her during the beginning and following stages of her business. They made a good team. It got me thinking and my friend Peju and I always discuss this. People come into our lives for a reason and for a season so we should not get caught up in the fact that we have a connection with someone and suddenly that's our life partner, NO! Her husband was a better business associate than a relationship partner which I believe was why they crossed paths in the first place. Understand the time frames and purposes of people in your life before making decisions about them.
Just a few things I will like to add: 
  • Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Your enemies might sometimes be household e.g. Joy's sister Peggy.
  • Don't ever listen to or let in any form of negativity.
I was so happy to see her final state. Wealth and success looked good on her and guess what? It looks good on you and me too. Keep dreaming! Keep pushing! Until the next post..... #chinupandbefabolous

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  1. I'm so in love with this post, your blog too!

    I'm also one of the Nigerians that over analyze movies and I fell in love with the movie. Nice points dearie. I'm hooked to your blog already.

    My name is Deedee, and I'm a relationship, events and lifestyle photoblogger

    1. Oh Wow! Thanks for stopping bye Deedee, finally found someone like me, lol. Will check out your blog too.


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