Monday, November 06, 2017

Life Update || Where I've Been & Why I Paused Monthly Blog Giveaways



I wanted to just come back on here and carry on with my blogging and we all just pretend like nothing happened but I feel I owe you guys an explanation as to why I just disappeared into thin air and have reappeared again out of the blues, thanks Salmah for letting me know how important and necessary this was. I want to say a big thank you and a huge shout out to everyone who DM'd me on Instagram and sent me messages asking what was up with me and when I'll be back, I appreciate every one of you, thank you so much for caring that much.

         


So what happened? Where have I been? Most of what I'm going to write in this post today is what I sent to my friend Salmah in a voice note this last weekend where I literally poured my heart out and that's not something I usually do but I'm glad I did and so you might want to grab a cup of tea, coffee, glass of water, just something light and let's get into the gist of the day. 



I'm not sure exactly when my last actual blog post was but it's been a while I created any kind of content whether for the actual blog or on my socials. And it was because initially, I wanted to make some changes to the blog design and theme, do some rebranding as I was taking a lot of blogging courses, webinars and things like that to help build my blog and create better content. You may have noticed that the blog looks different as I bought a template from Pipdig and designed a new header and favicon with Canva and also came up with a new tagline 'Girls' Advice & Lifestyle Blog'. I've also been trying to plan my content, write down different blog post topics ideas in my content book but still found it so difficult even after installing my new design and all to implement all these plans I had made. I've made so many draft post but not been able to complete any. 


I hardly ever go to Instagram just to see what's going on not to talk of even posting a picture because honestly, I had nothing to post. I also feel very insecure now because of how I look, lots of people have said I've added weight and I want to believe them even though I've not been eating anything out of the ordinary but yeah, my weight gain contributed to me not being sure if I wanted to show myself to the world just yet, my cheeks are bigger, my tummy bloated.



My friend who is also a talented photographer, filmmaker and graphic designer had promised to be taking photos of me but had been really busy so availability of photos have been a challenge and it's not so easy to bully anyone to take my photos and I don't have the extra funds to hire a photographer. Those are some of the things I've been trying to figure out. Also, I've been comparing myself a lot lately to other bloggers, YouTubers and other girls online on Instagram. And there's a voice in my head telling me I'm not up to the standard because I try to write what I think is good, I'm learning along the way through trial and error, no one is putting me through this and I didn't learn this stuff at school.  I felt like things weren't just right yet, I was waiting to go shopping and have all the right outfits first before I take pictures. School started, I have classes to go to almost every day of the week, I'm currently writing exams, I have to finish up my project cause this is my final semester and my supervisor is always on me and my team's neck to be done with it as soon as possible. 


I'm trying to delve into new side hustles to earn some extra cash on the side cause a girl has gotta survive, it's hard outchea. Also been having some family issues and a lot has been going on back at home with my mom and siblings. I lost my grand mum so there's her burial coming soon which is going to require a lot and put pressure on my mom. I was even scared I wouldn't register for school this semester. My mind has just been everywhere but I do want to focus on my blog and work hard at it cause I have faith in DateswithDanie and I believe it has the potential to be one of the best. 


But I'm glad to be back cause the sooner I get back to regularly creating content, the closer I get to achieving my blog goals. I announced at the end of September that I would be doing monthly giveaways on the blog and we had the first one but I decided to pause on it because I analysed what I was actually trying to do and the outcome I was getting. I came up with that idea of monthly giveaways cause I thought it would be a strategy to get more email subscribers, YouTube subscribers and Instagram follows. But I read somewhere that it's important for people i.e. your readers to love what you do and the content you create naturally and not try to buy their engagement with freebies but I ignored that. And after the first giveaway, I actually resolved that I need to work on my content and make my blog more appealing to you guys who are here now and those who are still going to join the DateswithDanie fam/tribe/squad. 

So yeah,  that's the long story cut short... Could you please comment blog post ideas down below that you'd like to see on the blog or you can DM it to me on Instagram or email me. Do you also have any critics or suggestions for the blog, don't hesitate to let me know. Thank you so much for reading 💗 Please SUBSCRIBE with your email for more and follow me online for more updates.


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14 comments

  1. Am glad your back and since I also kind of understand the struggle of creating content I will say your doing just fine and eventually everything will be okay, nothing lasts forever

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    1. Thank you Josephine, thank you so much ❤️

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  2. Awww thank you for sharing, I can definitely relate, I've been there before and I can ensure you that it gets better and its the bad days that makes you really appreciate the good. Just keep doing you and focus on what you love and actually enjoy about blogging and take it from there, after all its that personal approach that really makes an impact. Also, sorry for your lost, I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. ❤️

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    1. Wow, thanks so much Billykiss and for the prayers ❤️. You’re so right, just going to be me, do me and move at my own pace from now on.

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  3. I'm was so excited when I got the notifications. I'm so glad you're back. You've been so strong,love and God has got you. You are his girl. You are loved so so much and you'll be okay.
    Blog post Recommendations: I miss the girl post segment where you interview your friends and write out their individual opinions. I'd love for that to return. You could address a question like: Their take on ladies shooting their shot in this day and age.
    Have an amazing day

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    1. Have an amazing day as well Sisi, Amen and amen, thanks for the suggestion as well. Glad to be back to

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  4. Glad to see you back! I loveee your cheeks! I really do, also can relate with having to take that time off to re-evaluate etc hard when a lot of content creators are doing similar around you. You are very authentic and I enjoy your content! I like the editing of the pictures in this post too!

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    1. Awwwww, thanks for stopping by Chelsea, everything you've said means a lot to me. As for the photos, taken and edited on my iPhone. Wasn't sure about them, so glad you like them

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  5. Am glad you’re back girl. Don’t ever take anything that’s serious. Have fun with this because it’s meant to be fun. Blog about what you’re thinking about or how you’re feeling. You’re a baby girl for life and you’ve got this ❤️❤️❤️

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    1. Awwwww Olivia, my heart is doing me some how just reading this. Thank you and yasssss, baby girl for life !!

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  6. Be yourself Dany.Who you are make the difference with others.Somewhere you inspire someone and you don't know.Keep it up. Wish you all the best with your education.Sorry for your lost, my sinceres condoleances.

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    1. Thank you Kristy, I didn't know I inspire but thanks for letting me know and you're absolutely right, I'm just going to be myself from now henceforth. Thank you so much

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  7. Even though it’s my first time commenting on your blog post, I truly understand what you are going through because I know people who are in the same situation. Just Keep doing what you love doing and keep being who you are because I know you are beautiful inside and out. Also, I’m sorry for your loss, take heart♥️
    PS: Believe in yourself and keep going

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