What You Need To Stop Doing If You Really Want To Get Over Him

May 24, 2017
get over your ex

Hey guys! So in this post I'm going to go straight to the point. Why? Because us girls just need some one to tell us the hard truth or else we keep on lying and deceiving our own selves. So flash back to some months ago, I was trying so hard to get over my last relationship and survive that break up, it was so hard, I repeat so so hard. I never thought I would get through that phase of  my life. Has any one ever felt that way before?



get over your ex


 My own case was something that just kept re-occurring. I kept going back, breaking up again, going back and then breaking up again, like a continuous circle. Anyways, that's a story for another day. Over time, I learnt a few things that really helped and when it comes to my feelings and emotions towards that person, there's been a major shift. I'm happy and proud to say I've moved on and here's how you can to for good this time. So many times, we want to let go of this guy but still we're holding on with the other hand. If you really want to let go for real and for good, read on to see a couple of things you need to stop doing


get over your ex



1) Stop talking to him - Just stop. Don't keep calling him, texting him, chatting him up and even in person. It's not like you're beefing him or anything but for your own good and emotional well being, just let him be. Reduce the communication to zero. As hard as it might be, fight the urge to call him, text him or even send him an emoji better still you can delete his number from your phone. Clear all the chats or archive them so you don't even have to see his name anymore. I took a hint from being Maryjane sometime ago and saved his number as LET HIM GO so that anytime I hard the urge to call, I'd see his name LET HIM GO and not call him anyway and it did work sometimes.

get over your ex

2) Stalking him on social media -  One of the greatest things that significantly helped me was removing my ex as a friend on Snapchat. I used to think blocking and unfollowing each other once the relationship ends was too harsh and uncalled for but at the stage of heart ache I was in, it was needed and I'm happy I did that. There was no way I would have gotten over him even till now if I was constantly watching his snaps, his everyday life, when he wakes up, what he does during the day. I didn't like the way I felt when I watched his snaps so I just unfollowed. You just have to forget about what anyone even your ex will say or think and do what's right for you. You're not going to get over him by  constantly seeing who he's with, where he goes, what he's up to, don't even do that to yourself, just pretend like he doesn't exist even though it's hard.

get over your ex

3)Reminiscing on the good old days - the relationship is over and there's a reason why it didn't work out. Even though you've had some good times and it will be almost impossible to wipe your memory clean of them, you can't get over him if you keep dwelling on what was and what could have been. The first date' when you guys first met, all the plans you had made together, the movies you used to watch, just shut out such kind of thoughts completely.

get over your ex



4)Always doing flash backs - you know what I'm talking about, going through old pictures, old videos, reading old texts and chats. No babe, no! Try as much as you can to move on from the past and focus on the now and the future. When you have a wound that's trying to heal and you keep going back to the past, it's like you're opening the wound up again, how do you expect it to heal.

5)Not making up your mind - I believe so strongly in determination. Since the day I made up my mind that today was today and enough was enough, I've only kept moving higher and getting stronger. You have to be determined to move on with your life without him. And that means cutting out any slight possibility that there's a chance you both could get back together.

get over your ex

I know it sounds very cliche but time heals all wounds. When I was going through those breakups and having a hard time moving on, I used to hear and read about time healing all but I never imagined all the hurt I felt will ever go away but now it's all a thing of my past. So hang in there, you're strong and you'll pull through and you will love again no matter the voice in your head telling you otherwise. There's an amazing quote that says one day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anybody else.

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8 comments:

  1. Okay.. Can i just say this is a serious cute picture.. Like on a 100 aswear. Nice post. Please tell them. I don't like it when girls are unable to make up their minds. When i break up with my boyfriend (cus my boyfriend can never break up with me lol) i stick to it. I don't go back. That was then, but now, in dz age, we all need to grow up and learn to stick to our words.

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    1. awww thanks babe! Oshey baddest! My boyfriend can never break up with me. And you're so right Salmah. We should stick to our words. xx

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  2. Okay so i wana break up. ..but wait with who>...so the plan is, i get a girl and then break up, so i try out all these steps.. sounds really adventurous. Thanks Danie

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    1. Lol, Humphrey I don't really understand this comment tho but these tips are for girls to get over guys , things would be a little different if it's the other way round oo
      Thanks for reading dear

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  3. Hey Danie Dan! New nickname, I see youu glowing in these pictures and I'm loving it, proud of you for taking charge of your happiness and letting him go. Also, kudos to you for sharing something so personal.

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    1. Hi Lola! Thanks for the new nickname, lol! Thanks boo, i know right! It actually wasn't easy to share but I did anyway. xx

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  4. All very accurate words of advice girl!

    It's been 3 months since it happened for me and I can't explain the hurt and pain I felt those first few weeks. I kept wishing for this 'time' that everyone said heals to hurry up and heal me, and I'm currently not 100% there, but I'm a lot better than when it first occurred. xx

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    1. Awww thanks Nengi for sharing that. I'm happy you're feeling and getting better. Before you know it, you'd have forgotten all about it. Sending virtual hugs... xx

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