What You Need To Stop Doing If You Really Want To Get Over Him

/ May 24, 2017
get over your ex

Hey guys! So in this post I'm going to go straight to the point. Why? Because us girls just need some one to tell us the hard truth or else we keep on lying and deceiving our own selves. So flash back to some months ago, I was trying so hard to get over my last relationship and survive that break up, it was so hard, I repeat so so hard. I never thought I would get through that phase of  my life. Has any one ever felt that way before?



get over your ex


 My own case was something that just kept re-occurring. I kept going back, breaking up again, going back and then breaking up again, like a continuous circle. Anyways, that's a story for another day. Over time, I learnt a few things that really helped and when it comes to my feelings and emotions towards that person, there's been a major shift. I'm happy and proud to say I've moved on and here's how you can to for good this time. So many times, we want to let go of this guy but still we're holding on with the other hand. If you really want to let go for real and for good, read on to see a couple of things you need to stop doing


get over your ex



1) Stop talking to him - Just stop. Don't keep calling him, texting him, chatting him up and even in person. It's not like you're beefing him or anything but for your own good and emotional well being, just let him be. Reduce the communication to zero. As hard as it might be, fight the urge to call him, text him or even send him an emoji better still you can delete his number from your phone. Clear all the chats or archive them so you don't even have to see his name anymore. I took a hint from being Maryjane sometime ago and saved his number as LET HIM GO so that anytime I hard the urge to call, I'd see his name LET HIM GO and not call him anyway and it did work sometimes.

get over your ex

2) Stalking him on social media -  One of the greatest things that significantly helped me was removing my ex as a friend on Snapchat. I used to think blocking and unfollowing each other once the relationship ends was too harsh and uncalled for but at the stage of heart ache I was in, it was needed and I'm happy I did that. There was no way I would have gotten over him even till now if I was constantly watching his snaps, his everyday life, when he wakes up, what he does during the day. I didn't like the way I felt when I watched his snaps so I just unfollowed. You just have to forget about what anyone even your ex will say or think and do what's right for you. You're not going to get over him by  constantly seeing who he's with, where he goes, what he's up to, don't even do that to yourself, just pretend like he doesn't exist even though it's hard.

get over your ex

3)Reminiscing on the good old days - the relationship is over and there's a reason why it didn't work out. Even though you've had some good times and it will be almost impossible to wipe your memory clean of them, you can't get over him if you keep dwelling on what was and what could have been. The first date' when you guys first met, all the plans you had made together, the movies you used to watch, just shut out such kind of thoughts completely.

get over your ex



4)Always doing flash backs - you know what I'm talking about, going through old pictures, old videos, reading old texts and chats. No babe, no! Try as much as you can to move on from the past and focus on the now and the future. When you have a wound that's trying to heal and you keep going back to the past, it's like you're opening the wound up again, how do you expect it to heal.

5)Not making up your mind - I believe so strongly in determination. Since the day I made up my mind that today was today and enough was enough, I've only kept moving higher and getting stronger. You have to be determined to move on with your life without him. And that means cutting out any slight possibility that there's a chance you both could get back together.

get over your ex

I know it sounds very cliche but time heals all wounds. When I was going through those breakups and having a hard time moving on, I used to hear and read about time healing all but I never imagined all the hurt I felt will ever go away but now it's all a thing of my past. So hang in there, you're strong and you'll pull through and you will love again no matter the voice in your head telling you otherwise. There's an amazing quote that says one day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anybody else.

How did you get over a breakup? Please share all in the comments below. Please follow me on  INSTAGRAM || FACEBOOK || TWITTER || BLOGLOVIN and SUBSCRIBE to the blog if you haven't already. Thanks for reading, you are appreciated.
get over your ex

Hey guys! So in this post I'm going to go straight to the point. Why? Because us girls just need some one to tell us the hard truth or else we keep on lying and deceiving our own selves. So flash back to some months ago, I was trying so hard to get over my last relationship and survive that break up, it was so hard, I repeat so so hard. I never thought I would get through that phase of  my life. Has any one ever felt that way before?



get over your ex


 My own case was something that just kept re-occurring. I kept going back, breaking up again, going back and then breaking up again, like a continuous circle. Anyways, that's a story for another day. Over time, I learnt a few things that really helped and when it comes to my feelings and emotions towards that person, there's been a major shift. I'm happy and proud to say I've moved on and here's how you can to for good this time. So many times, we want to let go of this guy but still we're holding on with the other hand. If you really want to let go for real and for good, read on to see a couple of things you need to stop doing


get over your ex



1) Stop talking to him - Just stop. Don't keep calling him, texting him, chatting him up and even in person. It's not like you're beefing him or anything but for your own good and emotional well being, just let him be. Reduce the communication to zero. As hard as it might be, fight the urge to call him, text him or even send him an emoji better still you can delete his number from your phone. Clear all the chats or archive them so you don't even have to see his name anymore. I took a hint from being Maryjane sometime ago and saved his number as LET HIM GO so that anytime I hard the urge to call, I'd see his name LET HIM GO and not call him anyway and it did work sometimes.

get over your ex

2) Stalking him on social media -  One of the greatest things that significantly helped me was removing my ex as a friend on Snapchat. I used to think blocking and unfollowing each other once the relationship ends was too harsh and uncalled for but at the stage of heart ache I was in, it was needed and I'm happy I did that. There was no way I would have gotten over him even till now if I was constantly watching his snaps, his everyday life, when he wakes up, what he does during the day. I didn't like the way I felt when I watched his snaps so I just unfollowed. You just have to forget about what anyone even your ex will say or think and do what's right for you. You're not going to get over him by  constantly seeing who he's with, where he goes, what he's up to, don't even do that to yourself, just pretend like he doesn't exist even though it's hard.

get over your ex

3)Reminiscing on the good old days - the relationship is over and there's a reason why it didn't work out. Even though you've had some good times and it will be almost impossible to wipe your memory clean of them, you can't get over him if you keep dwelling on what was and what could have been. The first date' when you guys first met, all the plans you had made together, the movies you used to watch, just shut out such kind of thoughts completely.

get over your ex



4)Always doing flash backs - you know what I'm talking about, going through old pictures, old videos, reading old texts and chats. No babe, no! Try as much as you can to move on from the past and focus on the now and the future. When you have a wound that's trying to heal and you keep going back to the past, it's like you're opening the wound up again, how do you expect it to heal.

5)Not making up your mind - I believe so strongly in determination. Since the day I made up my mind that today was today and enough was enough, I've only kept moving higher and getting stronger. You have to be determined to move on with your life without him. And that means cutting out any slight possibility that there's a chance you both could get back together.

get over your ex

I know it sounds very cliche but time heals all wounds. When I was going through those breakups and having a hard time moving on, I used to hear and read about time healing all but I never imagined all the hurt I felt will ever go away but now it's all a thing of my past. So hang in there, you're strong and you'll pull through and you will love again no matter the voice in your head telling you otherwise. There's an amazing quote that says one day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anybody else.

How did you get over a breakup? Please share all in the comments below. Please follow me on  INSTAGRAM || FACEBOOK || TWITTER || BLOGLOVIN and SUBSCRIBE to the blog if you haven't already. Thanks for reading, you are appreciated.
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Apps For Editing Pictures

Hey guys! I've been wanting to do this post ever since I initially spoke all about my Instagram pictures and how I edit them over on my Snapchat (add me up @daniella.bature and make sure to say hi!) . So without wasting too much time, I have listed out 4 apps that I downloaded and currently use based on research, recommendations and reviews.

Apps For Editing Pictures


1) Facetune2 - This app is just the truth. I remember watching a video by Patricia Bright a long time ago about how she edits her IG pictures and she mentioned  Facetune but the app was paid and back then I wasn't into social media especially not Instagram. But I was so thrilled when I searched it on the app store now that I recognized the importance in my everyday and more importantly blogging life, and discovered that there was a free one which is actually Facetune2, it doesn't have some features that the paid one has but the features it does have are equally bomb.

Apps For Editing Pictures

2)VSCO cam - Up until recently, I couldn't understand the craze around this app. Because I noticed the #vsco or #vscocam on Instagram about last year summer especially on Grace Alex's (she's a Nigerian fashion blogger) pictures and so I decided to download it. It was difficult to navigate and  was giving me a really hard time. But once you get a hang of it, it becomes super easy and the filters are wonderful.

3) Pics art - I downloaded this one based on a Youtuber's recommendation. When I first heard the name, it sounded more like a graphic designing app and not so much like a mobile photo editing app. And because I hadn't heard so much noise about it, I didn't have too high expectations but it by far beat my expectations. It gives my photos an artistic finish which I love. It takes your photos from 0-100 really quick. 

Apps For Editing Pictures


4) Snap seed - This is another popular and highly talked about app. I was on a mission of going all out and taking my photo editing to another level which is why I downloaded this one as well. Unfortunately, I haven't fully understood snap seed but I hope to soon. It just has so many tools and options but the finished results are beautiful.

So there it is guys, download these 4 apps today or better still these 4 free apps and see your very basic pictures transform to the bomb.com. Chrissy Teigen did say "No girl on Instagram is prettier than you, they just have more apps" which is very true.

Apps For Editing Pictures

What apps do you use for editing your pictures? Please follow me on  INSTAGRAM || FACEBOOK || TWITTER || BLOGLOVIN and SUBSCRIBE to the blog if you haven't already. Thanks for reading, you are appreciated.



How To Track Your Period & Cycle || Flo Period App Review


Hello guys. Welcome back to my blog. If you're new around here, I'm so glad you found my little space on the internet, I hope you see what you like and also stick around. So, am I the only one who didn't know that period apps even existed until recently? By recently, I mean like around 2015. I knew as girls or young ladies, we are meant to track and take note of when our period shows up, how long it lasts and when next to expect it but I thought you're supposed to only do that manually or with an actual calendar but at least now, I'm know that there are loads of different apps that are just a download away.





How To Track Your Period & Cycle || Flo Period App Review









How To Track Your Period & Cycle || Flo Period App Review

I've used two period apps in the past, one is Clue recommended by bella the brownie diaries in one of her YouTube videos and the other is Period Tracker which I discovered and downloaded myself from the google play store. The app I'll be talking about today is called Flo. Now isn't that a nice name that just blends in. Flo App to track your flow, see the play with words.  So this app is available on both the App Store and Google play store so they have both android and iOS users covered. It's helpful, full of resources, simple and easy to use.

How To Track Your Period & Cycle || Flo Period App Review


You can download it, create an account with your email and password, answer a few questions about your menstrual cycle and start using the app. It tells you when you're about to ovulate and when you are actually ovulating. It tells you when to you expect your period and when it should end based o the duration it has already recorded.


How To Track Your Period & Cycle || Flo Period App Review 
 
 It also helps for those who are trying to have a baby, it tells you when you're most fertile and have high chances of getting pregnant and if on the other hand, you're trying to avoid pregnancy, it comes as a warning telling you that you have high chances of getting pregnant on such and such days if you have unprotected sex.

How To Track Your Period & Cycle || Flo Period App Review


So at the bottom, there are always news about women's health that you can always go through to stay informed and educated about your body. While on your period, you can log in information about how you're feeling  like your flow, activity level, sex drive etc.

Another amazing feature of the app is that you can set reminders. Reminders for when your period comes, ovulation day or if you are on oral contraception, you can set reminders for times to take your pills. It's all in all a great app and  more importantly free. I also love the color scheme. It has a switch to pregnancy mode option so it doesn't become useless to you when you do get pregnant.

How To Track Your Period & Cycle || Flo Period App Review

How To Track Your Period & Cycle || Flo Period App Review

So have you tried out this app, let me know what you think of it? And if you do, still let me know how you find it? What other period tracking apps do you use?  Please share all in the commments section. Please follow me on  INSTAGRAM || FACEBOOK || TWITTER || BLOLOVIN and SUBSCRIBE to the blog if you haven't already. Thanks for reading, you are appreciated!

DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)

Hi guys! Welcome back to my blog and if it's your first time here, you're most welcome too. Ever since last year, this furry slides have been on trend and much more with the Rihanna Fenty ones coming out. Obviously, I wanted one too but up until now, hadn't gotten any for different reasons. So I decided to make one for myself after doing some research online, I discovered it's not so difficult anyway. So read on to find out how I made mine. 

DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)


What you will need:

Any slides or slippers could be Nike, Adidas or any non branded super cheap ones like mine like the one I used. I got the pair from the super market for 13TL. 


Some boa. Boa is the furry thing that's used mostly for decoration, parties, costumes and things like that. I got a roll from Mr. pound for 6TL. You can check your local craft store for it or buy it online. Some glue and a scissors (I didn't put scissors in the photo) but you need it to cut the boa and also trim it if necessary.

DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)



Procedure:

First of all, measure the boa by placing it over the top surface row by row twisting it at the ends like a snake kind of movement. Then, glue the boa on, line by line by first putting a line of glue (I'd advise you you use invisible glue not colored like the one I used) and then sticking the boa on it. So place a line of glue and hold the boa down on it for some seconds until it has stuck. Twist the boa at the ends and continue with the next line until you have covered up the whole surface. You should go about 4 times it doesn't look scanty at the ends.
DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)

DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)


When you're done, take your scissors and trim around the edges to make it look more defined and neat and that's it, your fur slides are ready to be rocked and when anyone asks about it, you can proudly say "oh... I did it myself".  And you can refer them to this post as well. 😁😃


DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)


DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)

DIY || How To Make Your Own Fur Slides (Super Easy)

So that's the easy as ABC way to get your own furry slides for much more cheaper than it's sold. Let me know what you think in the comment section. Thanks for reading and please follow me on  INSTAGRAM || FACEBOOK || TWITTER || BLOGLOVIN' and SUBSCRIBE to the blog. Thanks for reading, you are appreciated!




I shared a post sometime ago about the things I absolutely love about box braids, read that post here. So today it's the things I hate, hopefully, you can relate to them.

 Box Braids

1. They take so long - honestly, this is the most discouraging thing about braids. If you are planning on getting them done one by one like actual box braids not crochet or sew ins, then get ready to devote a virtually a whole day. Worst if you're doing micro braids, they take forever.

2. It's painful at first - Tbh, the braids hurt and anyone who has ever done them know this fact. Depending on how tight it is, your scalp can hurt for days. And if you're not careful, you can even get boils around your hairline if it's too tight. It has happened to me for real.

 Box Braids

3. Your edges are at stake - flashback to 2015 when I had micro braids and after I loosened the braids, my front hair line was gone. These type of braids are dangerous, lol especially when you leave them in for a long time.

4. Edge control - Tbh, I'm actually very hair lazy so anything that requires extra effort, I don't like! For your hairline to look neat, you need to tame and control the edges so your baby hairs lay flat and that's extra work for me so..... but I have to try!

 Box Braids

5. They don't last forever - Box braids for me are so stress free. I always almost forget that I have to take them out. But yeah....

6. I hate when the braids get weak and the start pulling off or dropping from your head. I'm always like "it's only black girls' hair that drops off like this!" #blackgirlmagic

 Box Braids


So those are a few thing I hate about box braids. It's box braids season on the blog, lol. What do you think about box braids? I really really want to know, share all your thoughts in the comments please! Thanks for reading and please follow me on  INSTAGRAM || FACEBOOK || TWITTER || BLOLOVIN and SUBSCRIBE to the blog. Thanks for reading again, you are appreciated!

What I'm wearing
Cream colored cold shoulder t-shirt
Blue high waist jeans
Black & Silver flat sandals like the one here





Hi guys! Welcome back to my blog and if it's your first time here, you are most welcome. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you stick around.  I recently started paying attention to skin care and even  if I didn't want to, my excessively oily face and the explosion of white heads especially around my nose area has made me to. I wonder how many of you guys have heard of this peel off black mask especially online. On youtube, I watched some reviews about it and was determined to try it out. 

When I saw it in the pharmacy the first time,I asked for the price but didn't get it but my friend told me to try it that it's good so I finally got it. It's called NatureFace Peel Off Black Mask and it cost 6TL for a sachet ( about $1.69) and it looks like this. I got 2 sachets. 

 Peel Off Black Mask



 Peel Off Black Mask

 The instructions were written in Turkish unfortunately so I just went with my intuition. My face was fresh from bed and so I opened the sachet and applied it with my fingers. This is how the actual product looks like

 Peel Off Black Mask


So I applied it all over my face without touching my hairline, eyebrows and the area just  below my eyes. You want to be careful when applying the mask as you don't want to rip off your eye brows when peeling it off.






 Peel Off Black Mask



 Peel Off Black Mask



 I wasn't too impressed with the coverage though. I thought it would be more covering than it was. I left it on for some minutes until it was dry and I could feel it crack when I want to move my face or smile. I tried to peel it off in one straight sheet but it didn't want to work with me like that so it was coming out in pieces and I also was not happy about that. It wasn't too painful probably beacuse I'm not very hairy on my face except around my hairline and invisble side beards area, there are some little hairs around there.

I was able to get a reasonable peel off to show you guys. As for the effectiveness, my face felt softer, freer like stuff had gone out of it for real but the white heads around my nose were still staring at me. I really thought I had found a solution for them.


 What are your thoughts on this peel off mask craze? Have you tried it? Would you like to? Let me know in the comments below. I think I need to try out another brand perhaps the ones in bottles or tubes. Thanks for reading and please follow me on  INSTAGRAM || FACEBOOK || TWITTER || BLOLOVIN and SUBSCRIBE to the blog. Thanks for reading again, you are appreciated!
 Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas





Hi guys, welcome back to my blog and if it's your first time here, you're definitely welcome too. I really hope you stick around.  So this post was inspired by the lovely lady from adoreme.com, she reached out to me about a project that they are currently working on and she more like challenged me to do an outfit post. What I would wear for a romantic date night with my partner that would make me feel super sexy and confident. So after thinking about it, I came up with these outfit ideas. All images are from Pinterest and the adoreme.com online store.

First of all, this was my inspiration for the entire outfit, I wanted to mix up body con and a bralette because I feel it will look really sexy and is very daring. Daring and sexy can be good. 

Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas

So I went scouting on pinterest and came up with these pieces that I've put in a collage. It's a really simple minimal outfit, not doing too much but saying a lot at the same time.

Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas



Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas



Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas



Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas

Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas



Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas






Sexy Romantic Date Night Outfit Ideas 

I've already mentioned before on the blog how I love high waist body con skirts in this ootd post.  They are figure hugging, have huge tummy control and give the illusion of a small waist and full hips. So just like my inspiration, I paired the black body con skirt with this stunning red bralette from adoreme, they have some lovely pieces that I can't wait to get my hands on and it comes with matching panties too so why not add that to the equation. A pair of strappy sexy barely there heels, this trendy embroidered jacket draped over my shoulder, bold red lips and this cute Chanel boy bag and I'm out for a romantic date night out with bae. With this outfit combination, you're bound to make heads turn. Over time, I've realized you don't have to do too much to make a statement. There's this caption I saw on Instagram sometime ago that just popped into my mind now. It says "...and if they ain't looking at ya girl, you need a new one!" 

Thanks for reading lovelies, let me know what you think of every single piece in this outfit. I would love to know. What would you wear for a date out with bae, remember you have to feel sexy and confident, so will it be a dress, jeans, jumpsuit, let me know in the comments below. And please follow me on  INSTAGRAM || FACEBOOK || TWITTER || BLOLOVIN and SUBSCRIBE to the blog. Thanks for reading, you are appreciated!